#Ablogadayforthewholeofmay Day 5 - Jennifer on commitment

Hey lovelies, 

I hope you enjoy today's post. Over to Jenn. Enjoy!

Cole Xo

A New Perception of Commitment 

Commitment tends to be the hardest step to take in a relationship. 

People don't like to commit they prefer to be "free." 

They see commitment as a burden and as torture.

People tend to believe that marriage is a tie that brings you down rather than a promise to love forever. 

But you see that's the problem, commitment does NOT mean that you will no longer be free!

It doesn't mean that you will be a slave or an isolated individual. 

I think that our society has a misconstructed definition of commitment. 

We tend to believe that once we commit to our partner our freedom will be forced to come to an end and we will be prohibited from all kinds of fun. 

I see commitment as a promise to be loyal to someone, but this doesn't mean you don't have your own 'self' anymore, it simply means you will be loyal to a significant other.

If you are in love with someone, how is this even difficult?

I think we just have to reevaluate the perception of commitment, and think of it as a positive decision rather than a negative. 

Commitment will bring happiness, confidence, and trust into any relationship. 

Yes, indeed, it is scary because committing means you are giving your everything to a person who can turn around at any time and break your heart, but what if they don't? 

What if they take your heart and carefully guard it forever?

Love is risky, it's scary, and nerve wrecking, but it's also amazing and worth it.

Don't waste your time being scared because you don't know if this person will wait for you to commit. 

The time is now, just do it. 

We aren't promised a tomorrow, so don't waste a second longer. 

Speak up and make the moment perfect. 

xoxo, Jenn Love

PS. Remember to always love the one you're with. 

Trust, be loyal, and love with all you've got!

“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation.” 
― Madeleine L'Engle

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.” 
― Criss Jami